I posted April 11, Thank you so much for responding to my post as you also know it is kind of difficult to vent about our fears and concerns to friends and family when they are not familiar with the hardship of being with a Doctor. Sunday is considered sacred by Mormons, and they do not undertake any entertaining or outdoor activities that result in spending, on that day. I am just starting to get a little panicky and upset about this the more I think about it. Expect her to either write you off during her mission or pressure you to show interest in the church. It is not something that should be taken lightly. I was lucky with my TBM.
We all know people who know that the gospel is true but they will not accept it. Not in endless discussions of temple marriage, not ever. I have learned this painfully with my child growing up in the LDS community. She has to decide for herself what she believes, but you can definitely help expose her to new ideas. You have to have very thick skin to stay in it. Once she realizes you won't join and she can't get married in the temple, then I suspect everything will be over. Bottom line pardon the 'pun' is that what spoils being a Doctors wife is accentuated by female patients who try to impress via way of dress and or behaviour Lets face it - being a Doctor is something that many females find attractive My thoughts are with all Doctors wives.
If everything she is taught is correct and the Mormon church is "true" she should be able to research any anti-Mormon books or movies and prove their criticisms are lies. I try to visit for a couple hours here and there. The religious differences between you two are a deal-breaking fault. Being married and raising a family can be very difficult if the two of you disagree about important issues like religion. I know from my own experience that God has the answers and that He speaks to those individuals who humbly seek Him. You must either really love blue balls, or else she is not a real deal Mormon girl. My mom was a single mother with a lower than average income working full time so she understood that aspect.
Love the man you are going to marry- warts and all he loves yours as well. As Joanna said, marriage takes some work no matter what, but being married to your best friend, and listening to the spirit brings great blessings. I thought it was beautiful that they included him in the circle, even though he was not a Priesthood holder. If you have dated a doctor or other abnormally busy person or are in the medical profession yourself that would be particularly helpful, but I'll gladly take any words of wisdom.
