I lost my virginity to a man with a huge penis. Watching porn made me uncomfortable so I always just read erotica. I could barely open my jaw far enough to the get the thing in my mouth. We could only have sex in missionary position because everything else hurt so badly. I was not particularly impressed with intercourse or giving oral, for that matter. The rest of my relationships have been with men with normal size penises. I found out, holy shit, having sex with them is fucking easy. Give me a normal dick any day. I posted a while back about dating a guy with a micropenis. Really, he was just embarrassed by how small it was.

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After every sexual escapade my friends and I enjoyed in college, we'd ask each other one very big, important question: "Was he packing the heat? It's almost comical to think having a big penis equates to good sex, because, honestly -- and this is something I wish I could scream at my early something self -- that's just total bullshit. Because those are still great. But it does mean how you use it will almost always trump size. And sometimes too big can be, well, a problem. Just ask these nine gals who agreed to share their too-big-penis horror stories. One way big dicks totally suck is for blow jobs.
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So, what are we to make of this? Does penis-size matter at all to a healthy sex life, or is it time to crush the size stigma once and for all? We went to certified sex coach and writer Gigi Engle to get to the tip of it. Generally speaking, no. Size is regularly ranked as one of the least important things for people who have sex with penis-owners. More important than size is empathy, confidence, and communication. Oh, and oral sex of course. Most women and people with clitorises require external clitoral stimulation in order to experience orgasm. Meaning, the size of someone's penis isn't going to dictate your ability to orgasm After all, in a poll of our community members , penetration didn't even rank in the top two ways to orgasm! That being said, there is of course variation.
What makes an exceptionally good dick? To find out, I asked 20 women to share their preferences for the perfect penis. Some foreskin appears a bit saggy and sad. Girth is more important than length — about the thickness of a deodorant can. Taking a really big cock can make things a little slower, so I tend to prefer ones that are slightly shorter and more versatile. The style of penis I prefer is any size or shape, wielded by a confident, enthusiastic partner who is interested in my pleasure, as well as their own. And, I hate baggy foreskins, they make cocks look smaller. I never thought that I would have a preference, but recently I hooked up with someone who still had his skin and it was just odd. However, there are many exceptions. MORE: I tried naked speed dating and it was actually pretty amazing.