I do wonder if you ask this blog just to get supporting advice. Post was not sent - check your email addresses. He is not a member and has told me he is not going to convert. It does kick your butt!. Are you ok with waiting for that. After moving in with him it has become painfully obvious I have a lot of personal improvements to make to meet his minimum expectations as a wife and mother.
I feel I have given a lot of myself and in the process have lost myself and my identity. Good luck and best wishes as you head back out into the dating pool. But you are setting yourself up to leave the Church more easily, and even if you agree the children will be raised Mormon, your kids will likely not continue to participate in the Church as adults. I think about leaving all the time now because by myself there are no disappointments. I've been thinking more about your situation and another thing came to mind. Things have been mostly good, but there are always challenges to deal with. It is a tradeoff at best. I was definitely taking the "Tough love" approach because I've read countless times on this and other boards, how Mormons claimed that they were cool with their SO not being Mormon, and that they weren't, themselves, orthodox. Ragonk If you don't get it, never mind.
Here are my thoughts as someone who grew up with a non-mormon father and as someone who married a non-mormon girl. I clearly stated twice that I severed things with the girl. Same goes for holidays-flip a coin. We are not judged only for what we do but why we do it. I wouldnt encourage my kids to date a mormon. Propagandists in the media throw around the word patriarchy as if it is synonymous with anything male. You all are strong for staying but I just don't see how it is possible long term to live like this. Some Mormon girls succumb to worldly laziness. It is difficult to learn to have no expectations towards him, even though our mindset towards medicine is the same. It's been really helpful already.
It would be ludicrous to think otherwise. It is not easy for a nonmember spouse to understand a three hour worship block plus callings etc. I got married to a Mormon woman. Mastering the alone time has started to become an art for me I can only imagine how you must feel after doing it for so many more years: I am so glad I found your blog today. So now I am here and I have made a go of it for a year, found a new job, made new friends, tried to grow to like a culture that is foreign to me. This is not to say that I need to be the center of attention all the time, but just that I think all the time spent alone makes it more difficult to connect with each other. Just to make things worse I am from South America, he is australian and we live in Australia, no much support here Anyway good to know that I am not the only one. Did you ask him to drop you off and he refused, or were you hoping he'd think of it himself.