This is by design. If your heart longs for children, a family and love- why should you stop yourself holding out for some mystical Mormon man to swoop you off your feet. Do you really want to wait two years to enjoy sex, fun, happiness, intimacy with someone. I have a better and fuller relationship with God because my own practice has been supplemented by additional observance. My wife chose me, but most people aren't so lucky.
I do not understand what makes these nurses think that they have a place in his life. As a budding feminist, I left the church in my teens. I mean, there was no way it could be worse than intern year. He has never said a disparaging word about his mother.
Keep me posted, please. Break up with her. I don't mind long hour days but not having a companion during weekends. I want so much to be supportive, but since my family is gone, I find myself afraid that I will come off as needy if I ask for attention or more affection. However, you might be lucky to not have the experience I did. IF she becomes an Atheist free thinker like you then consider keeping her.
Things are very hard for me right now too. I just happened upon your blog I'm a doctor's wife as well - rural family medicine and I just wanted to agree with you that "have no expectations" is awesome advice. Righteous love does conquer all but in some cases it takes a lot longer than we are willing to wait. If you are dating a Mormon girl, then always wear a good shirt, jeans or pants, and avoid T-shirts with offensive wording or graphics. If this is his first year, I believe he has at least two more years, possibly as many as four or five. While that is the case sometimes, it Is much more of an exception than a rule. When those are not around or when the circumstances or the spirit indicate otherwise then prayer is more than enough. Living in an interfaith, marriage can be hell. Yes, those of us in the hospital work longer and harder days than most people with 9 to 5s, but we still have off days. Easily found in most hospital lobbies.
