Hi Ladies- My man is an emergency room physician in his mid 50's. Have lots of sex. Are you going to keep the sabbath holy as a family, or is he going to take the kids out for pizza after church, leaving you home to observe alone. This is tough enough when the kids are babies, but when they're older - teenagers - you'll get to tackle all of the hormone-fueled angst, drama, school difficulties, homework, school activities, and be the scapegoat when the kids get mad at you. We can't tell you that. I'm so happy I've found your blog. One thing that has helped my husband and I was a marriage class we joke that it was more like marriage therapy when we had only been married two years. I'm pretty disturbed by the level of dismissiveness seen in many of the comments here.
I also think he is not used to anyone telling him "no" or going against his opinion. Don't fall in love with a doctor. As a community, we're not set up for screening each funding request [more]. Even if she does, you'll be the reason in her family's eyes.
I do nearly all of the parenting fortunately we only have one child -- we both agree that this lifestyle is too demanding for more and find that my husband's crazy hours and the energy drain of the job make me yearn to connect with other wives that relate. She views patriarchy as a quality of God. I have been married to a doc for 31 years and just found out about an "emotional affair" that went on for 15 years she is a nurse. If she identifies as a Mormon, then she probably takes her faith seriously, and it means a lot to her. She, her family, and her friends all believe that she can't get into the Celestial Kingdom VIP Heaven unless she is "sealed" to a Mormon husband. And, as I was writing the reply, above, those thoughts went through my head. It's winter here and I figured she was layering for warmth. If you like her, and I'm assuming you do, I would suggest you continue the relationship and see how things pan out.
If she says yes. However, "medical families" can work. What my boyfriend and I used to do when we were long distance is write really, crazy long emails to each other almost as long as my blog posts. There is the possibility that she will wise up over time, but not likely. Do you work through parent teacher conferences and the entire soccer season. It is crucial to recognize that Mormonism has elements of belief, practice, and custom that work to make interfaith marriages especially difficult and inconvenient for both spouses. That of course does not mean all eternal marriages should have been entered into or will succeed. A year would have been just fine.